There are some things that we hold on to that give us energy and motivation, such as rewarding experiences or moments of pure love. But, there are also some things we hold on to that drag us down and take up a lot of our time. Following are 5 of those things.
1. Your Old Routine
Old habits die hard, and they get in the way of productivity.
For example, if you are used to working from 9-11 and then taking a break, a new job where you need to work 9-12 before taking a break will be frustrating. You will want to get out of there at 11 and that can drag you down for the extra hour you now have to concentrate and work.
I’ve found that it’s important to constantly update your routine according to your current life and goals.
If you are not sure what your goals are, check out Lifebook by Jon Butcher. It could help you get more clarity about where you want to spend your time and what you want your new routine to look like so that you can start living the life you want.
2. The Ex
We’ve talked about how bad relationship habits can hurt productivity, but old relationships can also hurt productivity.
The past husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, or friend can play a huge part in distracting you from being productive. Their Facebook profile, your friends talking about them, them texting you, them leaving you wondering, and so much more can take you out of the moment and into a situation that makes you sad, upset, or lonely – and definitely distracted.
Whether you still love them or hate them, you need to let them go and focus on your present and your future.
If you still love them, who knows, down the line, you may become friends or lovers again, but stewing over it now is doing nothing to help you become the type of person that they would want to become friends or lovers again with.
And if you hate them, then why waste any energy on them? Why let them control what you are doing now?
When I started to truly believe that some relationships were not meant to last a lifetime, I had a much easier time letting go of the ex-boyfriends and friends. Their relationship meant something – as it was important to me and my growth – but that didn’t mean it was meant to last for a lifetime. New and better relationships were meant to form, and that’s as clear as day now.
3. Things You Can’t Change
Failures, bad experiences, screw-ups, and disappointments can hold you back from being productive. Sometimes it’s hard to let go of ‘what should’ve been’, but you need to if you want to get busy with life and feel like you are accomplishing something.
If you are stuck on things you can’t change, trying saying the following affirmation: I let go of what I can’t change and focus on what I can do.
Say it over and over again. Post it on your bathroom mirror. Plug it in as an alert on your phone. This affirmation will help drive home the truth that you can’t change the past, but you can sure as hell do something better or more rewarding right now. It will help you shift your focus.
4. Expectations People Have Had Of You
Trying to live up to other people’s expectations is going to hold you back from being productive. You will spend time beating yourself up for not reaching their predictions. And, you may do things that are not actually helping you achieve the life you want – maybe even hurting you.
For instance, my friend’s parents expected him to get a college career and work at one job for the rest of his life. He spent a lot of time at college taking courses he had no interest in! Four years were wasted because he was trying to live up to his parent’s expectations.
Eventually, he realized that his parent’s expectations didn’t live up to his desires and dreams. Now, he’s a freelance writer and does productive things throughout his day that push him closer towards his goals.
5. Toxic People
As I said, sometimes relationships are not meant to last. I’ve learned over the years that letting go of toxic people can help take a HUGE weight off your shoulders and give you the freedom to do things that make you feel alive and productive.
Toxic people are often:
They may also have a victim mentality and drain you with their whining, complaining, and neediness.
Or, they may be filled with drama and demand you listen to all the things that are done to them and how they handled those things – keeping you from doing the things you want to do.
A toxic person is someone who drains you and makes you feel bad. When you are drained and feeling negative, you are less productive. Without a doubt.
So, remove people who keep you stuck in a negative space and allow your energy to increase and mood to improve so you can focus on what you want to do with your life.